PDA Adults & Partners of PDAers
Being a PDA adult in our culture is hard. Almost all of us have felt chronically misunderstood by others - but have also lacked the language to understand ourselves. Our partners and spouses may struggle to understand us, and to communicate their own needs and boundaries given our threat response. Meanwhile, while PDA is gaining awareness, most of the resources available are geared to children and teens.
The PDA Safe Circle supports PDA adults and our loved ones in self-understanding, and in using our strengths to craft lives that work for us within the limits of our nervous system. When you join The PDA Safe Circle community you get access to resources, events, a community feed specifically for PDA adults, and discounted 1:1 coaching sessions with Rabbi Shoshana. The community is low demand; you show up or not, however works for you. Zero pressure ever. There are also opportunities to share your strengths and skills with the community, and build power for a safer world for PDAers.
Who we serve
Parents of PDAers under 18
Being the parent of a PDAer in our culture is like playing a challenging sport at basecamp on Mount Everest, while everyone else is playing the same sport at sea level on a sunny day. Meanwhile, onlookers are shouting that problem is with our parenting style or with our children's behavior. In the search for relief, we get terrible advice by so-called experts to keep playing the same sport, but try harder. We and our kids end up lost, exhausted, and burnt out.
The PDA Safe Circle offers a radical alternative: Stop playing that game. In our community, you will have full access to The PDA Safe Circle Approach, a comprehensive roadmap to support your child and make grounded decisions within the constraints of your actual life. You'll also make real, lasting connections with other parents who are walking the same path, and build power towards a safer world for us and our vulnerable kids.
Parents of PDA Adults
As PDA becomes more well known, many parents of long-struggling young adults are realizing it explains their child perfectly. If you are one of these parents, you are likely navigating any number of complex questions: How do I begin to heal my relationship with my child now that I see how my earlier parenting hurt them? How do I identify and communicate my boundaries if my adult PDA child lives with me? How do I support a PDA child who is far from home? What is my role as a parent at this stage of my disabled child's life? What supports are available for my adult child, and will they be able to access them given their PDA?
The PDA Safe Circle community is here for you. As you learn The PDA Safe Circle Approach, you will also have access to our parenting feed, office hours, discounted 1:1 sessions with Rabbi Shoshana, and the opportunity to form meaningful connections with other parents of adult PDAers. These questions are complex, but you are absolutely not alone in navigating them. We've got you.
Coaches and Clinicians
As PDA gains awareness, more and more providers want to understand how to support PDA clients and families. Many find that what they've learned so far doesn't go deep enough. The PDA Safe Circle Approach is here to fill in the gap. Each of the 6 Elements of the Approach is designed to be used by PDAers and our loved ones, and by coaches and clinicians supporting PDAers. While many of the tools and exercises are useful on their own, the true power of the Approach comes in learning how the 6 Elements fit together, and how to apply them to across the diversity of challenges in a PDAer's life.
Rabbi Shoshana is in the process of launching a membership option for coaches and clinicians, and will be offering a robust certification program in 2026. Join the waitlist for both here!